P.N. This blog post is not for women who are afraid of going outside their comfort zone and choose to remain in the norm. Which category are you babe? As we’ll be looking at things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, little things guys love in bed, things guys find irresistible in bed, and what a man wants in a woman in bed.
Based on my experience working with couples, I’ve discovered that beneath the layers of decorative linens that cover our conjugal beds, there lies a shaky bridge that couples are scared of taking a walk on out of fear, pretence and even myths which is why most love lives are hardly far from what we want it to be like but we seem to be avoiding it like we do when we are on a shaky bridge.
Take me as your friendly lovemaking coach or even blogger as I don’t know everything but am just willing to help.
I’m here to help you take a huge leap in myths, lies, traditions and even self-inflicted fear that has hindered you from pleasing your man as the sensual goddess you are.
Don’t giggle sis, yes, you have so much powers but you are yet to realise them, if only you can reach inside you and unleash what you’ve got that has been waiting to find expression.
Believe it or not, every woman can fulfil her man’s desire and give him the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for. Believe it or not, the greatest of every woman isn’t her body, physique or her beauty but her brain. Knowing more about sensual psychology and how to apply it is also an added advantage.
So, why am I writing this post today? It is not just to provide you with tips on how to give your man things guys like in bed but won’t ask for but to help you change your mind and believe in your superpowers.
Despite your looks, body, or age you can fulfill your man sensually by doing things guys like in bed but won’t ask for. Going forward, what then are these things guys find irresistible in bed?
Things Guys Like In Bed But Won’t Ask For
Below are some mindblowing things guys like in bed but won’t ask for that will surprise you. Let’s dive into things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, little things guys love in bed, and things guys find irresistible in bed.
1. Be Real
I’d begin by asking if you had an opportunity to name your man’s second head by this I mean his joystick, what would you call it? I call mine “joystick”. Wouldn’t it be nice if you work on it or twerk on it while you call the new name you gave his second head?
Next, Let’s try and open up his pelvis, so your man can experience lovemaking in a way that’s less inhibited and more sensual and exciting.
Don’t forget also that men are protective, they are covered in layers of protection physically, emotionally and psychologically. Now I know what you’re thinking: Hold on a minute. Protection? Please!
You are usually the one seeking it to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. For most men, lovemaking begins and ends with the joystick and rarely extends beyond it.
From the fear of having his testicles rough handled due to ignorance and to the sensitivity around the p#rineum, some men have developed a don’t touch me there attitude, you can change the narrative by being real and making him see how much you love and fancy his joystick.
2. Catch Up Before Making Love
What’s your typical day like before bedtime with your spouse? Do you run off in different directions without check-in up on each other till you retire home at night? If yes is your answer then that’s not right. Your foreplay doesn’t have to start in bed but your mind.
Here you think of ways to stimulate and arouse your mate to spark up his desire for more of you. Out of fear we pop pills down our throats for energy when you can create and generate them to help achieve arousal without stress.
Most times we try to cajole the brain to follow our bodies instead of the body following instructions from the brain. I once read a note from a client that read this:
My girlfriend and I are living together, and we’re both really focused on our jobs at this point in our lives. We hardly have time for lovemaking and it’s been going on for months.
We tried scheduling time for intimacy but it did not work. I tell my girl whenever there’s a will in me but she doesn’t seem interested in lovemaking anymore and I’m frustrated too. Drey
So many people are in these shoes. I know you are struggling between fixing your career and your home and also scheduling time for lovemaking but regardless of what you do, your love life can be full of life again.
Trying to schedule time for intimacy will make it seem like some kind of performance or even a task losing its true essence which should be sensual, enriching and satisfying. We reduce lovemaking to another task that must be squeezed into the to-do list, much like taking multivitamins or doing sit-ups.
Like in the short note above, what can you do to remain connected to your man while you’re busy working in a schedule and following a strict to-do list at work? It’s not about more lovemaking or less but are you feeding the connection that exists between you both even when you are not under the covers?
That’s why your scheduled intimacy sessions are not working because you are trying to leave arousal to mechanical moves that don’t work instead of feeding your connection to keep your coals burning before you meet in bed. Lovemaking is about intimacy.
Catching up before making out is part of the things guys find irresistible in bed.
3. Make Foreplay Come Alive
One of the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for is for lovemaking to not be mechanical but for it to come alive. When it comes to foreplay, it’s time to stop confusing arousal with desire.
Foreplay is not a few mechanical strokes or flicks of the tongue that give rise to the joystick. Foreplay is the mental component of lovemaking.
Foreplay happens outside the bedroom; I’ll say it again: Foreplay happens outside the bedroom (or wherever else you’ll be pleasuring each other).
All of that kissing, touching, str#pping down, nibbling, teasing, giving bl#w job or even stroking cannot just be termed to be foreplay without making it come alive for the level of connection you share.
I’m not saying foreplay should be void of the above steps but it’s important to break out of the physical reflex-based approach. As I touched on above, I want to disabuse you, once and forever, of another well-worn idea: that foreplay and lovemaking go hand-in-hand. It’s time to decouple foreplay and lovemaking.
By no means does foreplay always need to lead to lovemaking or even sensual climax. Remember back in high school when the possibility of a quick kiss or a stolen smooch with your sweetheart was enough to make you sneak out a window past curfew? That’s the feeling we’re talking about.
4. Take The Lead Sometimes
Society has made us feel the man has to always be in charge while we have full control of the kitchen, take it from me, ladies that are taking the lead and using their initiative is one of the things guys like in bed but won’t ask for.
Don’t wait for your man to always initiate lovemaking, do sometimes and take control. Roll on him, grind on him, twerk on him, he’s your stage for the night and you are free to do the rock and roll on him whichever way you want it. Don’t be shy, take the lead.
Want to know what a man wants in a woman in bed? Take the lead and give him a KO.
5. Can You Go To The Extreme Sometimes?
I once read a book some years back (can’t remember the title) but in the book, the author had his clients who happened to be males close their eyes and do some sky diving and while they did, some screamed out lots of funny stuff like “I want to make love” funny but this goes a long way to show what goes on in the mind of our men sometimes.
They are ready for every call to action but what about you, even when you are not ready, can you go the extra mile to make them happy by fulfilling their fantasy?
Most times, I encourage couples to step out of their comfort zone gradually because some issues can’t be fixed at once, it may take time as long as you put your heart into it, it will be worth it and you will be glad you did.
In the coach exercise, he made some men have some jump statements like what the diver did in the story I shared earlier. He wanted to know the needs of men sensually and he made them compile some jump statements I’d be sharing below:
“I want to spank your bum .”
“I want to tie you up in bed .”
“I want you to tie me up too.”
“I want to watch you touch yourself.”
“ I want to make love in public.”
“I want you to go down on me more often.”
“I want to have a thr##some.”
“I want you to wear cute lingerie.”
“I want to make you come with my tongue.”
“I want to watch you get it on with another girl or guy.”
“I want you to talk dirty.”
“I want to take photos of you without you wearing clothes.”
Surprised I believe? This shows what goes on in our man’s head sometimes. How far are you willing to go? Put in some fire and magic and bring it on.
Note that you are free to disagree if you don’t feel good about any of his statements above.
6. Don’t be passive, participate.
7. Make sensual noise and scream his name if you have to.
8. Come prepared, come clean.
9. Be adventurous.
10. Be willing to communicate.
Final Notes On Things Guys Like In Bed But Won’t Ask For
So many things guys like in bed but won’t ask for is by no means exhaustive. There is a whole lot you can also discover as you go on in your relationship.
What are you willing to do to make this guy scream in bed for you? Let me also see your list of things guys like in bed but won’t ask for, things guys find irresistible in bed, little things guys love in bed, and what a man wants in a woman in bed.
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